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Cake day: July 27th, 2023

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  • I agree with you.

    I think argueing if adhd might be over or under diagnosed makes adulds feel even more ashamed.

    I also don’t like blaming self diagnosis. Women having a hard time finding professionell help, cause they never fit into stereotypical adhd behaivor. They seen as overreacting and emotional.








  • I might understand how you feel. Opening up is a good first step. But after that? I don’t know. What steps to take and how long your path will be… no one knows.

    Whenever anxiety tries to take controll of me… whenever i am angry at my own progress, i think about a little story:

    A man takes a morning-walk on the beach. During the night there was a terrible storm, spreading tousands of seastars over the sand. He sees a woman trying to bring the seastars back to the water.

    He walk up to her and asks: “why are you even doing this? You will just save a few, but the majority will die when the sun rises.”

    She bend down to pick one seastar up and throws it into the ocean. “Maybe. But this one i have saved.”

    Changing is hard and often feels pointless. The only thing we can do is doing things step by step.


  • Thank you 🥰

    When it comes to japanese food, Düsseldorf is really great. Cause i studied there i know some good Restaurants and supermarkets 😆 but i take recomondations all around nrw.

    i really want to taste spicy indian food or try other asian food, that is not so common here 🤔

    My best friend visited south korea a few years ago. She never liked spicy food, but said it was so good there, she now likes this stuff.




  • Sorry but it was never about OUR abilility in the firts place.

    In my country exams are old, outdated and often way to hard. In my country all classes are outdated and way to hard. It often feels that we are stucked in the middle of the 20th century.

    You have no change when you have a disability. When you have kids, parents to take care of. Or hell: you have to work, cause you can’t effort university otherwise.

    So i can totaly understand why students feel the need to use AI to survive that torture. I don’t feel sorry for an outdated university system.

    When it is about OUR abilility, then create a System that is for students and their needs.







  • I… dunno.

    My ex ignored me for like two weeks and had become closed of. He reinsured me, that everything was fine when i asked him. But the next time he visted me, he said that he wanted to break up, saying he made up his mind two weeks earlier. But i dunno his reason for it.

    The break up was okay. I though about it myself, cause he treated me bad the whole 5 month we were together: he talked bad about my interessets and hobbys. He overstepped my bounderies. And everytime, i made him aware of that, he was like “you didn’t make that clear enough”. He made me push my bounderies.

    Sadly, i allowed this kind of behaivor back than. I was used to it. During that time i did not know about adhd. I always acted weird as a woman and felt bad for not fitting in. I acted impulsive and had mood swings. I wanted someone to love me, accept me. So i excused these behaivors.

    No. I did not allowed that behaivor. But he made me feel like i was crazy when i wanted to talk about how i felt.

    Now i have more selfesteem, i am weird and loud and full of my ideas. I am in a beatiful relationship, i am loved and accepted as who i am. I But of course that expierence still hunts me. It still hurts.



  • Hej, there

    I can understand your frustration. Right now it feels that we small people can’t do anything to do good in the world. There are greedy capitalist everywhere. It is nearly impossible to understand what damage ones desicion could make. If our desicions even could make a difference.

    But the thing is, you can’t overlook everything. It’s a gouverments job to keep an eye over Corporations.

    But that doesn’t mean, that you can’t do anything. You can search for Informations and make yourself aware of those topics. You can support workers and strikes. You could limit yourself on what stuff you are comsuming.

    You don’t have to boycott every major company and every Product. You just could make a list about everything you really need and what you are really looking forward to. So you can balance your need for morality and fun.

    You will find a way that’s suits you. Don’t worry