• Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    2
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    9 months ago

    Since you apparently stopped watching as soon as he asked “are you gay,” the question he asked after that was “are you a top or a bottom?”

    If for some reason you think that’s a more appropriate question to ask a stranger with a camera in their face than “do you use condoms?” or “have you ever tried BDSM?” then that is also a self report.

    • activ8r@sh.itjust.works
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      9 months ago

      I started writing an annoyed reply then realised that maybe you just have a radically different level of comfort than I do.
      I’ll ask some of my friends who are not in the BDSM community for their opinion and I promise to have an honest re-evaluation of my thoughts on this, while taking your perspective to heart.
      Please consider that the video does appear to be in a setting where people would be more likely to answer these questions happily. However I am basing that on a few assumptions, so maybe I am mistaken.

      I would ask you to consider how your comments come across to others. I’m sure you are simply trying to establish reasonable boundaries for people of your comfort level, and I absolutely respect that, but your comments in response to me were very aggressive from the beginning.
      And yes, I do see how my exact complaint with your comments may be related to your point about the video. I will take some time to give that consideration as well.