cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/2911882
For some women in China, “Barbie” is more than just a movie — it’s also a litmus test for their partner’s views on feminism and patriarchy.
The movie has prompted intense social media discussion online, media outlets Sixth Tone and the China Project reported this week, prompting women to discuss their own dating experiences.
One user on the Chinese social media platform Xiaohongshu — a photo-sharing site similar to Instagram that’s mostly used by Gen Z women — even shared a guide on Monday for how women can test their boyfriends based on their reaction to the film.
According to the guide, if a man shows hatred for “Barbie” and slams female directors after they leave the theatre, then this man is “stingy” and a “toxic chauvinist,” according to Insider’s translation of the post. Conversely, if a man understands even half of the movie’s themes, “then he is likely a normal guy with normal values and stable emotions,” the user wrote.
No one is testing it on their partner every week.
Some men in the dating world will do anything to get a date, including claiming to be a feminist because being treated like a person appeals to women these days. An actual feminist will watch the movie and understand it’s themes of how the patriarchy hurts everyone, including Ken. Someone who is misogynist in feminist clothing will watch it and say the movie is just bashing men.
Watching the movie together will out these people.
Also it will weed out people who can’t accept criticism of their gender. Needing to tip-toe around man-child egos sounds pretty exhausting.
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It’s not as simple as portraying them as stupid. It’s portraying these men as victims of the patriarchy. Often times they are overconfident to their own detriment due to the circumstances they grew up in. It’s not about how ‘men are stupid’, it’s about how men in power were conditioned to dismiss women at their own expense. The movie shows how by taking a moment to learn and empathize with women’s struggles, they come to learn that healthy masculinity isn’t defined by how they are views by women’s it’s by how they view themselves. This is what Ken does at the end. He escapes the kencel pit and learns to value himself for who he is and his own interest instead of relying on female attention to define his worth.
None of this is something that the men did because they are ‘stupid’. It’s because of patriarchal conditioning, something that all of us are subjected to in this day and age.