• Supervisor194@lemmy.world
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      Any girl who would take the initiative to say something like this to a guy is into him. If she wasn’t, she wouldn’t have been vocal about it, she would have just properly avoided him.

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        Absolutely not. Women are people the same way men are. We ask stupid questions that we didn’t think through purely out of curiosity, and then realize how rude it was on the drive home just like you do.

        She may be, but if she is, that’s a godawful opener. I have 0 rizz but something like ‘I like your shoes’ or w/e is never hard to pull.

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        I think you got it. Time to pull out the the dress fedora and ask er out!

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        I half agree. It wasn’t the most tactful opener but I do believe she just wanted to talk. Maybe she was in to him, maybe she was just bored.

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          Pretty sure she wanted an icebreaker to reach a coworker that hasn’t said “hi” yet. Not everything is about “being into someone”, it’d be awful to work for a couple of years with a guy who looks angry all the time and hasn’t said a word to her.

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            So if she thinks it’s weird that he hasn’t said hi, why wouldn’t she just say “hi”? There’s literally a million other polite and innocuous things to say besides “why do you look angry.” Just the fact that they work together means they have to communicate at some point for their jobs.

            it’d be awful to work for a couple of years with a guy who looks angry all the time and hasn’t said a word to her.

            Who would care? I will never understand why people minding their own business bother other people so much. If she makes the choice to internalize someone else’s demeanor and facial expressions that have absolutely zero to do with her, then that’s her own insecurities coming through and she should probably look up some therapists.

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              So many assumptions over a greentext. I love that you diagnosed a person you have never met, over one sentence.

              Maybe stop doing that.

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          Or maybe she’s just Canadian and being polite, it’s really impossible to tell.

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            11 months ago

            Except asking why you look angry all the time isn’t remotely polite. Not everything needs to be a reference

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        No. It’s just an equivalent to ‘why don’t you smile? You look so beautiful when you do’

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          You’re just wrong lol. Asking someone why they don’t smile more is fucking patronizing. Asking why someone looks angry all the time is about asking to learn more about them, as they have genuine interest in the person.

          Do you honestly think a woman would ask a man why they look angry all the time if they genuinely believed the man was simply angry?

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            Both can be patronizing.

            Do you honestly think a woman would ask a man why they look angry all the time if they genuinely believed the man was simply angry?

            And yeah, why not?

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    Some people just don’t know how to start a conversation and will say anything that comes to their head.

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      Or, they’ll be like the OP and just ignore a new coworker entirely and never even say hello, which is also kinda rude and makes people think you’re mad all the time.

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        maybe they’re introverted and want to avoid small talk? can’t blame them

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          Sure, but it’s still kinda rude and makes people think they’re unfriendly, even if they don’t mean it that way.

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              I guess fuck me for being shy, right? How rude and selfish of me to just keep my head down and do my job.

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                Same. Outside from a quick hello (and I mean quick) to people I’ve deemed friendly, I’ll only talk if the job I’m doing demands it. I won’t be rude if someone asks me something, but the answer will also be quick and to the point.

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    A lot of people in here are the weirdos at work, it seems. Just say hello to new people and get it over with. Actually, you dont even need to say hello. Just not and smile.

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    I can’t imagine saying that to somebody, not unless I knew they were going to take it ok. If he really looks mad all the time and I don’t know him, I’m going to assume anger issues and probably not try to provoke them. But if they look like that all the time and I personally know that they’re nothing like that, I guess I could raise it up with them after a long time.

    In this case though it doesn’t sound like she knew him, so kinda weird. I guess some people just don’t care and just say whatever’s on their mind when it pops in.

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    This would be a green flag for me to red flag myself by pusilanimously oversharing.

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    Next time with Anon: “Never does anybody talk to me or show any interest in me! Also people discriminate against me, just because I am awkward in conversations!”