In 2016, Steven van de Velde pleaded guilty to three counts of raping a 12-year British schoolgirl. On Sunday, the registered sex offender was knocked out of the Paris Olympics.
I believe people can change and I think it’s important we hold space for people to do so. However, that hinges on the person actually growing, which often starts with showing remorse. I know you implied that this guy has done so, but I haven’t seen any evidence of that.
Even the quote you posted somewhere else about it being the worst thing he’d done, or something like that? That very much sounds like a, “I’m not sorry I did it, I’m sorry I got caught” kind of statement.
Asked if van de Velde had ever expressed any remorse to him for rape, Immers [his teammate] said: “No, he doesn’t, he doesn’t explain it.”
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“I have been branded as a sex monster, as a pedophile,” he said. "That I am not — really not.”
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If there’s an apology or some actual statement showing his remorse, I’d love to see it, but I’m skeptical that it exists. This whole controversy he’s had a huge opportunity to step up, apologize, and rebuke his prior actions. Instead, he’s faced it all with silence and a reaction of ‘I don’t want to talk about it.’ That is not the behavior of a person who acknowledges they were in the wrong, imo.
No im pretty sure all child rapists are pedophiles. I do not think the 2 ideas should be separated. You make it sound like you are cool with people being pedophiles as long as they’re not a child rapist. Fucking weird.
So correcting your terminology because you are using the word pedophile to have a different meaning than what it is dictionnary defined makes me “pro-pedophile” lol.
By your definition Marriam-Webster, Wikipedia, and pretty much every psychomedical academic journal is “pro-pedophile” then.
Fuck anyone who harms children. But being attracted to children is not a choice, science has proven that. And acting like these people are all evil (even if they’ve never acted on their urges) makes then less likely to seek help because of shame, and increases the rate of children who are hurt.
It’d do a lot of help if you atleast skimmed the wikipedia page on the topic.
Having a less cruel mindset is what allows it to go on though. Our justice system is built by predators for predators so victims are already at a disadvantage, and the fact that anyone would want consideration for the rapist only encourages others. The whole idea of being at all lenient on child rapists is crazy to me
This is exactly the point I’m trying to make, but am getting downvoted because I apparently sound like a “child rape apologist”.
I understand the crime is emotionally charged, but that doesn’t mean anyone convicted of it should just be thrown in the oubliette.
I would like to propose “forgettamatorium” as an English translation for oubliette.
I believe people can change and I think it’s important we hold space for people to do so. However, that hinges on the person actually growing, which often starts with showing remorse. I know you implied that this guy has done so, but I haven’t seen any evidence of that.
Even the quote you posted somewhere else about it being the worst thing he’d done, or something like that? That very much sounds like a, “I’m not sorry I did it, I’m sorry I got caught” kind of statement.
If there’s an apology or some actual statement showing his remorse, I’d love to see it, but I’m skeptical that it exists. This whole controversy he’s had a huge opportunity to step up, apologize, and rebuke his prior actions. Instead, he’s faced it all with silence and a reaction of ‘I don’t want to talk about it.’ That is not the behavior of a person who acknowledges they were in the wrong, imo.
The problem is that people absolutely believe that.
Yes it does. I think having empathy is a good thing and most people deserve it. Not child rapists.
So you’re for punitive justice instead of rehabilitive justice?
For pedophiles, yes!
child rapists or pedophiles? One is a crime another is a psychiatric disorder.
Less than half of child rapists are pedophiles.
No im pretty sure all child rapists are pedophiles. I do not think the 2 ideas should be separated. You make it sound like you are cool with people being pedophiles as long as they’re not a child rapist. Fucking weird.
Most child rapists are not pathologically attracted to children. It happens because of power imbalances or other factors.
You can think what you’d like but pedophelia has official DSM-5 Diagnostic criteria and there’s an entire academic body of literature behind this.
No, i just dont care about anything you’re talking about. All it comes off to me as you are trying to say being a pedophile is not that bad.
Claim whatever by whomever. Nothing now can change the fact that you are pro pedophile and thats just weird.
So correcting your terminology because you are using the word pedophile to have a different meaning than what it is dictionnary defined makes me “pro-pedophile” lol.
By your definition Marriam-Webster, Wikipedia, and pretty much every psychomedical academic journal is “pro-pedophile” then.
Fuck anyone who harms children. But being attracted to children is not a choice, science has proven that. And acting like these people are all evil (even if they’ve never acted on their urges) makes then less likely to seek help because of shame, and increases the rate of children who are hurt.
It’d do a lot of help if you atleast skimmed the wikipedia page on the topic.
Wow im being down voted for being a anti-pedo. Yall are fucking weird. And sick 🤮.
No you’re being downvoted for being in favor of barbaric punishments instead of rehabilitation.
Having a less cruel mindset is what allows it to go on though. Our justice system is built by predators for predators so victims are already at a disadvantage, and the fact that anyone would want consideration for the rapist only encourages others. The whole idea of being at all lenient on child rapists is crazy to me