I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don’t feel like anyone notices.

So I’m going to try and compliment people who:

Have really well done and unique tattoos

Are older but super athletic (It’s harder and more thankless, since when you’re young and athletic you’re usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)

Have super sharp outfits

Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)

what are other good compliments we should give each other?

EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I’ll try to throw out a “looks like you’re cooking up some good stuff”

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    My personal favorite probably is compliments on when I have built/fixed something. It’s the skill I’m the most proud of.

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      This! Using my knowledge and practice to practical effect and being thanked for it is genuinely the best feeling! Even if it’s transactional, it’s still nice to feel like a job well done after all the years of effort and craft.

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    Genuine compliments on personality are always cool. Like, “you’re good at making people feel comfortable around you” or whatever. People often wonder what role they play in social situations, being told they’re doing good is nice. At least I appreciate it whenever it happens.

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    I put a bunch of effort into making my moustache curly, a bit like Dali. And recently I received a compliment from a dude for that. I really liked that.

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    I was in Italy on vacation and a girl in a hotel reception said me and my girlfriend have really beautiful blue eyes. They are not used to blue eyes in Italy so much, but it felt very nice to get a compliment as a guy. I think I’ve rarely or never had compliments from strangers like that.

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      That woman probably felt safer to compliment you as well as your girlfriend because you were together. Sadly, guys in general get fewer compliments from girls than pop into the girls’ heads because they’re afraid of how the guy would react.

      Which is why it’s nice for OP to call on guys to compliment each other, and notice when they’ve put in effort.

      I’m going to add, “Great hair!” And, “Those glasses really suit you!”

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    I’m always ordering weird shirts off the internet. From like video games, Youtube channels, FOSS and general geeky fun stuff. About once or twice a year some total stranger will say “cool shirt!” out of nowhere. That always makes me smile the rest of the day 😊

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    As a father, I’d like to hear how well I combine being an emotionally supportive dad while maintaining a demanding job and taking care of cooking, repairs and other stuff at home.

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    “That’s an interesting thought!”

    “This (thing I worked on) looks great!”

    “I respect the choices you’re making here.”

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    I’m usually pretty happy to be recognized for my extreme dexterity.

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      Hey there, I saw you juggling while twirling a drumstick and just wanted to tell you I was really impressed by your dexterity

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        Nonono, I spin a puppyhammer while doing the Melbourne shuffle!

        Last weekend I saw a dude juggling and riding a little cruiser skateboard though!

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    It’s enough to compliment them on whatever is new. New shoes, new haircut, new shirt, new tattoo, etc.