So I met this girl by chance and we really hit it off, once I learned of her age I decided to just be friends as I think that 19 to 25 is an age were we mature a lot and I remember myself as a 19yo and I was not mature enough to be a good partner and to be good to myself.

I talked to a female friend of mine and she said that I’m over thinking it and that I should ask her out and be open minded, and so I did and we are going on a date soon.

The thing is, she seems really mature but I can’t put aside the age gap.

Am I over thinking it? Should I really just take it slow and just be vigilant about the situation and notice if this isn’t healthy for me or her?

Or should I let her down easy and continue as friends?

Update: We went on a date and it was great, I read all of the comments and there were some really good advices that I took to heart. I will take things slow and try to be as aware of the situation as possible. I hope it will go well :)

Thank you everyone!

  • vagrantprodigyEnglish
    235·
    1 年前

    Half your age + 7 is literally from a comedy movie. It’s not a hard and fast rule.

        • CmdrShepard@lemmy.oneEnglish
          13·
          1 年前

          Once you reach that age you can pretty much do what you want. I think if you can pull a 47 year old at 80, you should be good to go.

        • Turun@feddit.de
          121·
          1 年前

          I’m not sure if your criticism is that a 45 year old should be considered old enough as well, or if you think that a 50 year old is not old enough to make the decision to date an 80 year old.

      • Rockyrikoko@lemm.ee
        51·
        1 年前

        OP is full of shit. Maybe it was in a movie, but it’s not FROM a movie

        Half your age plus seven is an unofficial rule of romance often credited to French author Max O’Rell (Léon Paul Blouet) in his 1901 love manual with the incredibly romantic title of Her Royal Highness Woman and His Majesty Cupid.